A Brief Summary...
Megan and I have an incredible relationship. She is a wonderful child.
But, like any teenager...
When Megan will ask for something and I say no...Megan doesn't like it.
If Megan does something wrong and there's going to be consequences, which usually means an explanation of why it was wrong and/or I try to teach her about accountability, Megan doesn't want to deal with it.
Keep in mind that Megan does not get spanked. Her consequences are usually me having a conversation about what she did wrong, why it was wrong, how to approach it next time, and asking her if she understands. Then I ask her to re-iterate.
THIS IS WHAT CHRISTY CALLS A LECTURE.
IF I do what any good parent will do and stand my ground as a parent..if I don't give in to Megan's request to give her what she wants, she will then claim that:
NOT a problem, what teenager has never been mad at a parent before?
The problem is when Christy takes this opportunity to act like the concerned parent.
Christy extols over and over again that she "has to protect my [our] daughter!"
Christy then keeps Megan away from me.
THIS FULFILLS A COUPLE OF CHRISTY'S NEEDS AS WELL.