October 2010SUMMARY: RELEVENT INFORMATION IN YELLOW
Tammy's (my wife) father died on July 5, this year. She said she wanted to visit her mother over Thanksgiving break. I explained my concerns right away; that Christy will never go for it. We tried, as I mentioned in the e-mails below to communicate with Christy and one that I sent inquiring about what rights I had as a father Christy avoided me while I tried to get her confirmation. |
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E-mail to San Bernardino Court self help
-----Original Message-----
From: [email protected][mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Tuesday, October 12, 20107:11 PM
To: Child Support Self Help
Subject: Child Support/courtordered visitation
My ex and I have come to an impasse when it comes to visitation arrangements. We have been able to handle our
differences for the last 12 years but now we need a mediators assistance and or a court order.
She lives in San Bernardino County with our daughter. I live in Palm Springs
area (Riverside County). Where would I need to file for support and
visitation rights? If I need to file in San Bernardino, do I go to main branch or
toVictorville branch.
760-619-4770
Joe R Barrow
Joe and Tammy Barrow
Empower Me! Journals
www.EmpowerMeJournals.com
From: [email protected][mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Tuesday, October 12, 20107:11 PM
To: Child Support Self Help
Subject: Child Support/courtordered visitation
My ex and I have come to an impasse when it comes to visitation arrangements. We have been able to handle our
differences for the last 12 years but now we need a mediators assistance and or a court order.
She lives in San Bernardino County with our daughter. I live in Palm Springs
area (Riverside County). Where would I need to file for support and
visitation rights? If I need to file in San Bernardino, do I go to main branch or
toVictorville branch.
760-619-4770
Joe R Barrow
Joe and Tammy Barrow
Empower Me! Journals
www.EmpowerMeJournals.com
-----Original Message-----
From: Child Support Self Help <[email protected]>
To: '[email protected]' <[email protected]>
Sent: Wed, Oct 13, 2010 8:12 am
Subject: RE: Child Support/court ordered visitation
Are there any cases between you and the other parent? Are you or were you
married?
From: Child Support Self Help <[email protected]>
To: '[email protected]' <[email protected]>
Sent: Wed, Oct 13, 2010 8:12 am
Subject: RE: Child Support/court ordered visitation
Are there any cases between you and the other parent? Are you or were you
married?
-----Original Message-----
From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Wednesday, October 13, 2010 10:27 PM
To: Child Support Self Help
Subject: RE: Child Support/court ordered visitation
No cases..but we were divorced about 10 years ago...we have had an amicable
relationship, mostly because my current wife and I are pretty laid back and try
to keep things stable for our 12 year old daughter.
But its been 3 or 4 years since my daughter has spent holidays with us and we
feel as if we don't have a choice other than to get a court order to get
consistency and fairness in time spent with each parent.
If you're thinking that this is minor and that we should be able to work things
out amicably like adults, then you are 100 percent correct.
However, my ex is borderline AND bi-polar. So, until she gets help we have no
choice but to try this option, unfortunately. I know, TMI.
Thanks, Joe
From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Wednesday, October 13, 2010 10:27 PM
To: Child Support Self Help
Subject: RE: Child Support/court ordered visitation
No cases..but we were divorced about 10 years ago...we have had an amicable
relationship, mostly because my current wife and I are pretty laid back and try
to keep things stable for our 12 year old daughter.
But its been 3 or 4 years since my daughter has spent holidays with us and we
feel as if we don't have a choice other than to get a court order to get
consistency and fairness in time spent with each parent.
If you're thinking that this is minor and that we should be able to work things
out amicably like adults, then you are 100 percent correct.
However, my ex is borderline AND bi-polar. So, until she gets help we have no
choice but to try this option, unfortunately. I know, TMI.
Thanks, Joe
RE: Child Support/court ordered visitation
From: Child Support Self Help <[email protected]>
To: cmyfamly <[email protected]>
Date: Thu, Oct 14, 2010 8:47 am
AttachmentHELP_LINE_locations_revised_062909.doc
What we were trying to determine is whether there was an existing case-we need
to know this before trying to answer your question of where to file. You
mention a divorce; if you file for visitation orders, you will file at the
courthouse where the divorce took place, using that case number. Forms with
samples are available at our Self Help Centers.
From: Child Support Self Help <[email protected]>
To: cmyfamly <[email protected]>
Date: Thu, Oct 14, 2010 8:47 am
AttachmentHELP_LINE_locations_revised_062909.doc
What we were trying to determine is whether there was an existing case-we need
to know this before trying to answer your question of where to file. You
mention a divorce; if you file for visitation orders, you will file at the
courthouse where the divorce took place, using that case number. Forms with
samples are available at our Self Help Centers.
Itinerary to Christy
E-mail to Christy
----- Original Message -----
From: Joe Barrow [email protected]
To: CHRISTY [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, October 14, 2010 10:09 PM
Subject: Christy..
Megan said that you said that either way is fine if Megan comes wit us or not.... thank you for your support.
Not sure what made Megan change her mind, but she was ALL excited about going...still..we wanted to touch base with you just out of respect and common courtesy.
So I tried a to talk to you a couple of times. Two times mike said that you will call me right back. Both times no one did...I also asked him to have Megan call me...he said she was in the shower and would have her call me...We sent Megan a few texts and called her...
Just so you know...we support you as well..Megan had said that she did not want to got to Mexico last spring with you guys...she was upset about missing Gym... We explained that not only did she not have a choice but that she would have a blast...and reminder her that she is very fortunate to have 2 loving families who take her to fun places and love her very much...some kids don't go anywhere and have parents who don't seem to care.
Thanks again for your support...
Joe and Tammy Barrow
Empower Me! Journals
www.EmpowerMeJournals.com
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Re: Christy..
From: Christy G <[email protected]>
To: Joe Barrow <[email protected]>
Date: Thu, Oct 14, 2010 10:29 pm
Joe,
I am trying to get the root of her issues with going, and there seems to be no reason why she shouldn’t go. I am trying to encourage her to go, however perhaps like you said, she will realize how much fun she had reflecting back. I reminded her how much fun she had last time with her cousins. I asked her if it was because she thinks she will be off with her friends during that time, and reminded her that it is out of the question. I will restrict her from hanging with her friends due to the fact of braking plans with you. she states that she is ok with that and just feels more comfortable at home. Her excuse to me was " I just don’t want to go out of state unless its with you", which is entirely an excuse. she cant seem to give me a valid reason so I told her that she needs to do the right thing. I think at this point she is afraid, again that you are mad at her and she fears a lecture. Away from Megan for a minute, I really wish you would have waited to talk to me about booking her a flight for thanksgiving week. I had told Megan we had plans with our family but I didn’t get a chance to discuss this further with her. I received your email with a flight schedule and really was disappointed that we didn’t get to choose an option. Megan doesn’t know this, I am just expressing my issues separately. Please in the future let me know your plans so I can work around them. In the meantime, I will continue to encourage Megan to go and advise her to do the right thing. I would think as a child this experience is fun and exciting, I would hate for her to miss out. Please text me next time you need to talk.
From: Joe Barrow [email protected]
To: CHRISTY [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, October 14, 2010 10:09 PM
Subject: Christy..
Megan said that you said that either way is fine if Megan comes wit us or not.... thank you for your support.
Not sure what made Megan change her mind, but she was ALL excited about going...still..we wanted to touch base with you just out of respect and common courtesy.
So I tried a to talk to you a couple of times. Two times mike said that you will call me right back. Both times no one did...I also asked him to have Megan call me...he said she was in the shower and would have her call me...We sent Megan a few texts and called her...
Just so you know...we support you as well..Megan had said that she did not want to got to Mexico last spring with you guys...she was upset about missing Gym... We explained that not only did she not have a choice but that she would have a blast...and reminder her that she is very fortunate to have 2 loving families who take her to fun places and love her very much...some kids don't go anywhere and have parents who don't seem to care.
Thanks again for your support...
Joe and Tammy Barrow
Empower Me! Journals
www.EmpowerMeJournals.com
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Re: Christy..
From: Christy G <[email protected]>
To: Joe Barrow <[email protected]>
Date: Thu, Oct 14, 2010 10:29 pm
Joe,
I am trying to get the root of her issues with going, and there seems to be no reason why she shouldn’t go. I am trying to encourage her to go, however perhaps like you said, she will realize how much fun she had reflecting back. I reminded her how much fun she had last time with her cousins. I asked her if it was because she thinks she will be off with her friends during that time, and reminded her that it is out of the question. I will restrict her from hanging with her friends due to the fact of braking plans with you. she states that she is ok with that and just feels more comfortable at home. Her excuse to me was " I just don’t want to go out of state unless its with you", which is entirely an excuse. she cant seem to give me a valid reason so I told her that she needs to do the right thing. I think at this point she is afraid, again that you are mad at her and she fears a lecture. Away from Megan for a minute, I really wish you would have waited to talk to me about booking her a flight for thanksgiving week. I had told Megan we had plans with our family but I didn’t get a chance to discuss this further with her. I received your email with a flight schedule and really was disappointed that we didn’t get to choose an option. Megan doesn’t know this, I am just expressing my issues separately. Please in the future let me know your plans so I can work around them. In the meantime, I will continue to encourage Megan to go and advise her to do the right thing. I would think as a child this experience is fun and exciting, I would hate for her to miss out. Please text me next time you need to talk.