November 29, 2012
S11 at 8:30 am
Commissioner Debra Daniels
We had already prepared for the worst. Having read other's experience with the court system when it comes to Parental Alienation, but what happened stunned us.
Because I had not filed a response in time, Christy's incompetent therapist, and the recent allegations that Christy sprung in mediation, I was denied ALL visitation until January 14, 2012.
So now the horror stories that we have read about and that others had shared with us has come true.
A loving, stable father who has done nothing wrong was just denied his God-given right to have contact with his daughter during the rest of the holidays. Christy had already kept me away from Megan all of Thanksgiving break. I had actually only seen Megan 7 times since July 27, 2012.
I kept thinking of what I had read in Alec Baldwin's book, "A Promise to Ourselves." About how the nightmare never ends and then there are the false allegations. I always had some sort of solace in knowing that at least my case wasn't as bad as Alec Baldwin's and others who had gone through this hell. But now I find myself in a situation so much like the one's I read about.
On November 8, I stopped by the San Bernardino Court to pick up a stamped copy of our court order. Christy had made a big deal about my not having an officially stamped court-order. While I was there I inquired about filing a contempt of court along with all the Sheriff's incident reports that I had accumulated so far. I was told that since there was already a pending case I wouldn't have to file, but would just need to submit my paperwork into the existing case files. This made sense to me, but then i asked if I could add additional incident reports since our hearing was over almost 3 weeks away and I knew that Christy was going to continue to deny my court-ordered custody time with Megan. When Christy is this triggered, there is no amicable resolution.
The clerk said I could bring all my reports in on the day of the hearing. "Just bring 3 copies she said, one for the other party and the original for the judge. The last copy was for myself.
I suppose this is somewhat true, but she failed to tell me everything.
The bailiff in the courtroom in s11 that morning filled me in on the rest of the story.
When I attempted to hand the bailiff 2 copies of the report, he said to hold on to it. "Some days she takes them and on other days she won't."
It went down hill from there.